Caring Friends investigates developmental homosexuality and its prevention. Many people have found that the public stories about homosexuality differ greatly from the realities inside the homosexual life. This has inhibited the offering of help to homosexual persons and gays. With some knowledge of the actual problems faced by those in homosexuality, the community can better assess legislation, education and treatment offered.

Much of the information about homosexuality lies outside of public experience and awareness. Caring Friends provides information about the reality within homosexuality.

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Mission Statement

Caring Friends investigates and works to prevent developmental homosexuality. Developmental homosexuality is an ongoing shift away from the birth gender of an individual into harmful, damaging and limiting activities.

Caring Friends will research and provide information on developmental homosexuality and its prevention. One Hong Kong ex-gay has stated: "Homosexuality is damaging. It damaged me. I damaged others." This type of damage is preventable. Caring Friends works to identify how homosexuality arises. Caring Friends works to limit the cycle of abuse through which an emotionally and psychologically-damaged young person engages in same sex activities which harm himself or herself and others. Research studies, published works and the evidence of those knowledgeable about homosexuality will be presented.

For example, 77 analysts from the Society of Medical Psychoanalysts, after extensive study, stated that: "We have come to the conclusion that a constructive, supportive, warmly-related father precludes the possibility of a homosexual son." (Arno Karlen, Sexuality and homosexuality: A New View. 1971, Norton, New York, p. 573). Those who have witnessed gender identity affirmation, the turning back to one's birth gender, verify that indeed a person can be removed from a path to homosexuality. Caring and knowledgeable fathers and mothers do not abandon their children to a belief that any part of them does not matter or count. Caring parents address the entire needs of their children, even when these needs are difficult to establish.

Caring parents affirm the birth gender of their child. Steady affirmation of their child, listening by Mother and Father, and parents celebrating life with their children precludes an entrance into homosexuality. Considerate parents work to overcome self-pity in their children and help their child to get rid of any unhealthy envy of their peers. Sensitive parents discover the gifts and talents of each child and celebrate these.

Compassionate parents are champions of their children, not as idealized angels or star athletes, but as real human beings with their own thoughts, feelings and ambitions. Thoughtful parents are involved in the lives of their children, especially in play. Loving parents are seen as friends, admired leaders and guides. Competition with their children, controlling, dictatorial, part-time involvement, lack of commitment, neglect and abandonment are not in the vocabulary or actions of caring, attentive parents.

No child enters into homosexuality from a vacuum; they have generally had a number of experiences which have pushed them in this direction. Except for sexual abuse, hundreds of experiences, feelings, thoughts, impressions, activities, teasing, put downs, times of ridicule, loneliness, depression, nightmares (sometimes including bed wetting), and instances of substance abuse, embarrassment, hurt, injury and misunderstanding have produced an environment ripe for homosexuality to appear attractive. Children with a sensitive-type personality have a far higher risk of entering homosexuality.

Individuals in homosexuality have much to lament, but one of the biggest regrets is the loss of their childhood due to ongoing unhappiness and feelings of insufficiency especially relating to their ability to be a part of their gender. A lonely, regrettable childhood of being misunderstood with unmet emotional needs always forms a basis for potential entry into homosexuality. No formula predicts which factors will or will not cause a child to enter into homosexuality. Caring parents ensure happiness, satisfaction and contentment in their youngster by working to maximize the self-worth, self-satisfaction and contentment of their child. We can be doing better for guiding, directing and showing respectful love to children.